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Words Matter


Test this out once…I read a Tony Robbins article and it resonated with me.


“I” versus “YOU”


“YOU are always at school. YOUR job is more important than me”

Versus:


** ”I felt lonely when we did not get to have dinner together all week.”


“Hun, YOU leave your clothes all over and YOU expect me to clean up after YOU”

Versus:


** “Husband, I get so confused when you leave your clothes on the floor because I thought I had communicated how important it was to me that they made it in the laundry basket.”


“YOU aren’t listening, did YOU even hear what I said?”


Versus:


**“I feel resentful and hurt when we are talking and I know your mind is focused on something else.”


Every single couple has arguments and challenges. Sometimes just choosing the right words matters.


When I approach my husband Will, with “YOU” statements, (which I catch myself doing often) I am not taking ownership of my emotions. I am actually placing the blame on him. This opens the door for Will to be much more defensive and resentful.


If, instead, I use “I” statements, I am taking responsibility for what I am thinking and feeling. The chance of him REALLY hearing me goes way up. Plus, it’s such a much more passionate way to communicate.


It seems silly, but it really works. Sometimes it just prevents us from lashing out at the person we love the most.


Try it <3

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